TRUST
Trust is an essential relationship fundamental, and unfortunately, too often a broken or absent ingredient in many homes. It is impossible to have successful compatibility when one partner cannot trust the other.
The Good News!!, is that rebuilding trust can be accomplished with a few simple steps.* The key is that there are certain, specific (and different) steps that must be taken by each person involved.
There are two basic parties in trust/distrust:
1. Breaker...the person who broke the trust by their actions or
behaviior; eg, dishonesty, cheating, promise breaking, etc.
a. Prioritize the feelings of the injured party; more than your
own feelings and emotions.
b. Change the behavior that caused the trust to be broken.
c. Become accountable to someone of high integrity, a
spiritual advisor or mentor, and be totally honest.
d. Communicate more: listen, respond, interact more.
2. Injured...the person who was hurt as a result of infidelity,
dishonesty, or other promise breaking.
a. Take care of yourself; emotionally, socially, physically.
b. Clarify your expectations and requirements for your trust
and confidence to be restored; be specific.
c. Decide to move on to rebuild yourself, your self-respect
and future.
d. Forgive: for yourself, your future and any relationship you
hope to have in the future. Don't let this define you.
* Each one of these steps have specific choices and actions that should be taken, in order to understand why and how this is to be done; eg., how to take care of yourself, how to become accountable, etc.