TEMPERAMENT EVALUATION *
Circle only one letter in each group that most describes you. There are neither bad choices, nor any choices better than any other. This simply evaluates your personality temperament.
A. Optimistic; how friends see you
B. Pessimistic; usually negative
C. Forceful... demanding
D. Shy ... patient & conceding
A. Highly excitable
B. Loner
C. Born leader
D. Faithful follower
A. Fun oriented to everything
B. Perfectionist: details and lists
C. Controller ... boss
D. Laid back...easygoing
A. Life of the party
B. Organizes everything in detail
C. Commanding personality/leader
D. Serves others or sits quietly
A. Talkative; loves to meet strangers
B. Prefers solitude ... distant
C. Decisive ... aggressive
D. Good listener & helper
A. Action... excitement.,. crowds
B. Meets strangers suspiciously
C. Loves confrontation/challenges
D. Avoids challenges... conflict
A. Grand dreams; little plans
B. Practical and doubtful
C Highly success oriented
D. Content with quieter side.
A. Bubbly, laughing
B. Reserved, cautious
C. Hard to please…task driver
D. Obliging ... conforming
A. Plays only for fun.
B. Plays.--but thinks about work
C. Plays only games to win
D. Plays: often lets others win
A. Disorganized ... doesn't plan well
B. Moody ... depressed... reflective
C. Gives orders ... takes charge
D. Introvert. .nonchalant ... quiet
A. Forgets argument quickly
B. Analyzes all angles; slow to decide
C. Never loses an argument
D. Agrees rather than argue
A. Impulsive ... action oriented
B Broods ... never forgets
C. Strongly opinionated
D. Prefers routine to change
A. Sees humor in everything
B. You’re suspicious of this already
C. Firm ... competitive
D. You’ll go along for the other’s sake
A. This better be fun or you’ll get bored!
B Worker ... moody
C. You’d rather be in charge
D. Gentle ... non-demanding
A. Decision making should be fun!
B. Quietly obstinate in decision making
C. Must be involved in decision making
D. Hates conflict in decision making
A. Prefers wearing loud/bright colors
B. Dresses conservatively
C. In business, dresses for power
D. Dresses comfortably
A. Physically touches others easily
B. Restrained in boundaries/touching
C. Assertive in boundary crossing
D. Doesn’t impose on other’s territory
A. Acts, then thinks
B. Thinks things through before acting
C. Quick to decide; self-confident
D. Prefers to avoid rapid changes
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Count the number of each letter. The letter selected most indicates temperament, and the more that one letter is represented,the stronger the temperament influence.
A. Tiger Cub: energetic, playful
1. Positives: lives for fun, warm, forgiving, exciting, optimistic
2. Negatives: easily bored, scattered
B. St Benard: faithful, quiet
1. Positives: stable, thoughtful
2. Negatives: moody, unforgiving
C. Polar Bear: controller, boss
1. Positives: leader, takes charge
2. Negatives: bossy, 'cold'
D. Koala Bear: peaceful, laid-back
1. Positives: easy going, flexible
2. Negatives: un-motivated, indifferent
How does this affect your relationships?
Every temperament has strengths (positives) and weaknesses (negatives) which reflect how we relate (react, discuss, listen, respond) to others---especially the one who is most significant in our life! (More later about why this is the person who affects us most of all. positively as well as negatively).
Temperament strengths are ways of interacting with others, which make us likable, attractive, emotionally comfortable and socially successful. These are socially acceptable behaviors which contribute, rather than interfere with our personal and social life.
Weaknesses are (often) strengths which have become extreme, creating conflicting social interaction and personal dysfunction. Left unchecked and uncontrolled, the weaknesses influence our relationships more than our strengths and continually disrupt all positive things happening in a relationship.
Explore personality/temperament understanding and how it impacts your relationships by reading:
Wired That Way by Florence Littauer